tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-78532065914373257842024-03-05T01:04:24.789-08:00Elder Care CafeA place to share information and personal stories as caregivers to the elderly.Edie Dykemanhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07694926625541907592noreply@blogger.comBlogger91125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7853206591437325784.post-21832604363605091892010-09-16T00:15:00.000-07:002012-08-27T04:28:30.555-07:00We Arrived and Survived a Cross-Country MoveWe arrived on our new island home on August 23rd. What a trip! in more ways than one. We left on a Thursday afternoon, stayed overnight at a motel about five hours from our home, then traveled to my brother's home for a wonderful stay - bed and breakfast included, on Friday night.<br />
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Saturday night we spent in Oklahoma, and Sunday night just 75 miles from our new home. We drove in early Monday morning and were met by a wonderful team of movers who promptly got us into our new living space. <br />
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My daughter and her family were there to greet us, took us out to dinner, and made sure we were settled in. We are really enjoying our new lifestyle although Dad, especially, misses all his old friends in Michigan. After all, he had lived all of his 87 years in Michigan. It was tough for him to move, but he stepped up to the plate for the sake of our family. We really appreciate his willingness to make that sacrifice.<br />
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We are enjoying our life here although it is very hot. It is starting to cool down now that it is September, and I am sure that we will enjoy the winter. We live within close walking distance of a Dairy Queen and a hamburger drive through - no not THAT one - and will take advantage of both!<br />
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Just wanted to update everyone that we arrived and survived a cross-country move. At our age, that is really saying something.<br />
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Take care!Edie Dykemanhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07694926625541907592noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7853206591437325784.post-11913374517280651082010-08-11T07:32:00.000-07:002010-08-11T07:32:54.002-07:00On the Move Again - This Time to TexasDad and I moved out of his long-time home last December as I wrote about a few months ago. Now, we are gearing up for a move to the lower SE of the Coastal Bend of Texas - near Corpus Christi. Quite a move for a couple of seniors - one who is now 87-years-old. We have our Penske truck on reserve and are just needing to find a home where we can land.<br />
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We are need there to help care for another family member. Sounds like I went from long-time work in hospitals to a new field of care giving. Unfortunately, when I worked in hospitals I was in the admin field, not working as a nurse. Thankfully, my daughter in TX is an RN and will be of great help in that area. My role will be more of a driver/babysitter type role for my 3-year-old grandson. <br />
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Those of you who follow this blog have seen his picture on the sidebar and in a couple of the posts. Our David is growing up quickly and we are excited about having a chance to spend more time with him. <br />
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Even Dad, who did not want to leave Michigan, is now on board with the move and looking forward to spending time with his great-grandson. <br />
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Along the way, we will stop in the St. Louis, MO (Illinois side) to visit my brother and his family and see his new home. Dad is excited about that as well.<br />
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Part of getting Dad on board the move has been focusing on the positives and not the negatives. At first he considered moving into a nursing home rather than going with me, but he eventually realized there wouldn't be anyone visiting him, he would be in a much smaller location with very few of his personal items with him, and that he would be much better off going to TX with me. Thank you, Lord!<br />
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As our trip progresses, I hope to stay in touch through this blog to let everyone know how we are doing, where we are at, and what sights we get to see.<br />
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I'm proud of Dad for being able to change gears this late in life. Although moving to an island off the coast of Texas is not his first choice for the rest of his life, he is gamely stepping up to the plate. What a guy!<br />
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<em>If you have moved an elder across country recently, please let me know what worked or did not work for you. I would love to have you share your experience.</em>Edie Dykemanhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07694926625541907592noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7853206591437325784.post-44546712392929401792010-07-25T04:21:00.000-07:002010-07-25T04:21:41.723-07:00When Friends and Family Visit Aging SeniorsJuly 2010 has brought quite a large number of guests to our home for various reasons, making my father a very happy man. He loves having people stop by and enjoys the hours of conversation that provides.<br />
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Just this month alone we had visits from:<br />
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<ol><li>My brother and his family came to visit over the 4th of July from southwestern Illinois. Also joining us was my niece from Indianapolis.</li>
<li>My cousin who lives in North Carolina stopped to visit on his way from visiting a relative in Wisconsin.</li>
<li>My daughter and grandson from Texas, and my other daughter from SE Michigan stopped by while here for a funeral on the former in laws side of the family.</li>
<li>My sister is now here from Utah as of yesterday.</li>
<li>Life long friends from the mid-Michigan area stopped by Friday to see how Dad was doing, and to watch a DVD that my brother put together of old videos my Dad had recorded.</li>
</ol>That was just in July alone! Very unusual that we get that many visitors, but it has been fun to see everyone. At our age, you never know when you will ever see anyone again. <br />
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What I most noticed, however, is that no matter how much we enjoy the company it seems to pass all to swiftly. Suddenly the house is empty again and we just have snippets of conversations and certain memories of those who were here. It really is difficult living so far from one another that we are unable to visit any more than we do. And, the visits are all too short.<br />
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The month is running out so I don't know if we will have anyone else this July, but it has really been a pleasure to see everyone in person. A number of us get together on Facebook, email, cell phones, and text messages, but it is never the same as seeing someone in person. <br />
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Hugs are great - we love our hugs. We also enjoy just sitting around talking and sharing memories from the past. All in all, it's been a great summer and we will remember when friends and family visited these aging seniors.Edie Dykemanhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07694926625541907592noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7853206591437325784.post-36557426680664207852010-04-10T04:55:00.000-07:002010-04-10T04:59:03.954-07:00Let's Look Together Book ReviewCheck out the book review of <em>Let's Look Together: An Interactive Picture Book for People with Alzheimer's and Other Forms of Memory Loss </em>by clicking on the above title. Long title, slim picture book, great value. This wonderful book was written by Rae-Lynn Cebul Ziegler, a licensed occupational therapist certified in sensory integration.<br />
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Mrs. Ziegler first conceived the idea of sharing photographs with memory-impaired individuals when her mother was struggling with Alzheimer's. She later created this book of instruction and photos, and is using it with good success. The pages are glossy for better viewing, the photos are mostly pastels with bright colors, and every picture is alone on the page. There are no words, and only one picture is placed on the right-hand page so that there is little distraction.<br />
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The 58-page book is filled with information on how to interact with a loved one who is suffering from memory loss. I highly recommend getting this book if you are a caregiver or loved one of someone who is struggling with Alzheimer's or any other form of memory loss.<br />
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I would like to thank HealthProPress for providing a comlimentary copy of this book for review. If you would like to purchase Let's Look Together, it is available at <a href="http://www.amazon.com/gp/product/1932529519?ie=UTF8&tag=bellmystbook-20&linkCode=as2&camp=1789&creative=390957&creativeASIN=1932529519">Amazon.com</a>.Edie Dykemanhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07694926625541907592noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7853206591437325784.post-25491141601204927892010-04-09T06:35:00.000-07:002010-04-09T06:37:50.704-07:00Dad and I in 2010Time for another update, don't you think? In the last post, I related how Dad took a header down the basement stairs at my aunt's 80th birthday party. Well, it took a while, but Dad seems to have finally recovered. Several wonderful nurses and therapists from Sparrow Home Health Care out of Lansing, Michigan worked diligently to get Dad back into fighting shape. Due to a number of complications, they were not able to sign off until just a couple of weeks ago.<br />
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<strong>On the move</strong><br />
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Dad and I moved out of his long-time home in late December 2009. We now live in a wonderful apartment just seven miles away, and are enjoying living on the outskirts of Lansing. <br />
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We are able to walk together most days when we go to the mailbox about a half block away by the shortest route, although we try to stretch the walk out when it is nice. Dad uses a cane whenever he is outside, but seems to enjoy the walks. We usually get in a block or two before he tires out. At eight-seven, I think he is doing pretty well.<br />
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<strong>Peace is good</strong><br />
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We both feel at peace here, and that is very important to us. Although we don't really know what is coming up ahead, we do know that life has blessed us both. <br />
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Take care, and hope to have you visit either this blog, or the main site at <a href="http://www.eldercarecafe.net/">http://www.eldercarecafe.net/</a>.Edie Dykemanhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07694926625541907592noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7853206591437325784.post-27788349974590276282009-10-29T05:33:00.000-07:002009-10-29T05:59:48.173-07:00Family Update - All is Well<a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEgtY6Be9_DIT0Sfr-I55tgts-JLXrunNBmAJliVYBk-NYjHBKdZGc2tZ0kllTZnNmdBQ5N8GeDwLIDEJIYgRK7nj5UD65lXImMosEwGlacP3y75D0CH-eahN3HMdNzP3CGGkdOaLOYZv6i8/s1600-h/Dad+and+Dad2+0909.JPG"><img style="float:left; margin:0 10px 10px 0;cursor:pointer; cursor:hand;width: 256px; height: 320px;" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEgtY6Be9_DIT0Sfr-I55tgts-JLXrunNBmAJliVYBk-NYjHBKdZGc2tZ0kllTZnNmdBQ5N8GeDwLIDEJIYgRK7nj5UD65lXImMosEwGlacP3y75D0CH-eahN3HMdNzP3CGGkdOaLOYZv6i8/s320/Dad+and+Dad2+0909.JPG" border="0" alt=""id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5398003763203210578" /></a><br />Apparently I haven't posted since Dad's traumatic header down a flight of stairs on August 8th. He and my daughter were attending a birthday party for a long-time friend of Dad's. The party was held in their church basement. As Dad and Deb were leaving, they climbed a flight of stairs and Deb told Dad to wait and she would grab their jackets. While he was waiting, he apparently became dizzy and took a dive down about eight steps, face forward and head down, coming to a stop on the landing.<br /><br />To make a long story much shorter, he spent three days in ICU and ten days at a rehab center. He has had home health care since that time, mostly due to a large wound on his leg that is slow in healing. He is diabetic and healing this wound is a major consideration. Thankfully, the wound care people are taking good care of him.<br /><br /><strong>David's Visit</strong><br /><br />The second major event this fall was the visit by my other daughter, Barb, and her son David. You will see his picture in the previous post. They stayed for approximately two weeks, and were missed before they even left the driveway. Texas is a long way from Michigan, and we have no idea when we will see them again. Thank God for cell phones with the ability to send pictures and short videos. We are able to keep up to date on David's growth and his activities.<br /><br /><strong>Dad's 87th Birthday</strong><br />The third event this fall was Dad's birthday on October 18th. He turned eight-seven-years-old (87). What a milestone. His sister turned 92 on the same dad. We didn't do anything really special, just had a quiet day of football and special dinner, but he did receive numerous birthday cards and phone calls throughout the weekend. <br /><br />If you haven't had the chance as yet, stop over at the Elder Care Cafe.net and check out what is happening. We are up to 266 posts at this time and still going strong. Lot's of changes there recently in the look of the site, but the same intent - to support caregivers and the elderly - is still of utmost priority. We celebrated our 1st birthday in early August. We had a birthday cake, balloons, and of course Beyer's sugar free pecan ice cream. <br /><br />Just a quick update. Hope you get a chance to visit us somewhere on the web. We are still here although we don't post as often anymore. <br /><br /><em>Let us know what is going on in your life. We would love to hear from you and how you are doing with your care giving. Take care and hope to hear from you soon.</em>Edie Dykemanhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07694926625541907592noreply@blogger.com3tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7853206591437325784.post-55252001898232514372009-07-19T03:35:00.000-07:002009-07-19T03:52:00.662-07:00September Will Bring a Family Visitor to Our Home<a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEi8GykaGJZ0SF7kmquX0OlTcGGwuLJdD3TFZEQUVC_6KYwXN8tbQoHeWYkic9mvFjhIMB8IlfS1lED6qR0Rrqj6f2LI1CWfGepDoiavkTjpMjJYWf4j5_mWHuI6tyQfdYeWy50pN_onNEvH/s1600-h/Photo-0247.jpg"><img style="float:left; margin:0 10px 10px 0;cursor:pointer; cursor:hand;width: 160px; height: 200px;" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEi8GykaGJZ0SF7kmquX0OlTcGGwuLJdD3TFZEQUVC_6KYwXN8tbQoHeWYkic9mvFjhIMB8IlfS1lED6qR0Rrqj6f2LI1CWfGepDoiavkTjpMjJYWf4j5_mWHuI6tyQfdYeWy50pN_onNEvH/s200/Photo-0247.jpg" border="0" alt=""id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5360119509869070514" /></a><br />We are all atwitter here since we learned our grandson/great-grandson will visit us in September. Now two-years-and-four-months-old, David is growing fast. We have received quite a number of photos via cell phone, well over a hundred at last count.<br /><br />About twenty short videos also allow us to watch him as he grows. He is becoming quite a young boy.<br /><br />Long distant grand parenting is difficult when we see such wonderful changes taking place. I would love to be with him in person, but I am thankful that modern technology allows us to stay in touch pretty much in real time. <br /><br />I have a picture that I framed of David and his Dad soon after they left a local restaurant one evening. The cool thing about the picture is that while they were in the restaurant I received two videos showing David and his family while they were eating. <br /><br />Now when I look at the picture, I can remember, or watch once again, how he behaved while eating. Almost like being there in real time.<br /><br />We haven't yet tried Skype, although I think being able to see and talk to him via that type of resource would be a great addition to our photo and video arsenal to keep Grandma and David in touch with one another.<br /><br />I know that I am where I am supposed to be as far as caregiver to my father, but I certainly miss the physical closeness, i.e. hugs and kisses, I could have with my grandson. Thankfully modern technology helps us stay in touch.Edie Dykemanhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07694926625541907592noreply@blogger.com3tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7853206591437325784.post-27624529655351628082009-05-17T02:21:00.001-07:002009-05-17T02:27:23.253-07:00Shoppe Opened, Shoppe ClosedUnfortunately, the Shoppe at Elder Care Cafe has closed. Sometimes what we would like does not materialize as we envisioned. I will continue to write reviews as appropriate and relevant books or movies become available, but the shoppe for browsing will no longer exist.<br /><br />Life seems to be a series of experiments. As we try various opportunities, we learn what works and what does not. Hopefully, I will always continue to look forward, and be willing to try new territory. No matter how old I become, or where I live, or what happens in the future, I hope that I continue to grow, move forward, and try new things.<br /><br />How about you? Are you settled in where you are, or are you willing to experiment, reaching out into the unknown, and try something new?Edie Dykemanhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07694926625541907592noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7853206591437325784.post-4327578304612409262009-04-05T05:10:00.000-07:002009-04-05T05:47:46.374-07:00You're Planning On Living How Long?About six months ago, my dad was scheduled for a four hour session related to his heart condition. The cardiologist was running a one hour test and a three hour test. Dad adamantly declared he did not want to go through the test again. After talking to my siblings, we decided to let him make his own decision and therefore he did not have the test.<br /><br />Last month we got a letter from the cardiologist who had rescheduled the test for Friday, April 3. Although Dad really did not want to go through the ordeal, he said, "Well, if I'm going to live to be a hundred, I guess I might as well stay healthy."<br /><br />We arrived at the office about 8:45 a.m. and left a little after 1:00 p.m. with Dad looking pale and weary and declaring, "I'm never having that test again!" <br /><br />After a quick very late lunch at a nearby Arby's, he felt much better. Friends of his, the wife is a distant relative, had accompanied us to the appointment and we thoroughly enjoyed our lunch and the drive to and from the doctors office. I think their presence made the whole event a little easier for Dad.<br /><br />But, I bet we have a little different response from him the next time the cardiologist tries to book an appointment. What do you think?Edie Dykemanhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07694926625541907592noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7853206591437325784.post-48373781716022507422009-03-29T07:04:00.000-07:002009-03-29T07:32:09.935-07:00Country's Family Reunion DVDs Review<a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEicOTu5odYKqC35hniUQYURRhXnHynQwDl4TYvIEMPHWhJ775Ac8vDg99fJha_NTrau2v3fzCLHdmUBViJrBe1V8qX93iFew66fHNF6_6zcgRr4zicyc_ozNGhAEyU_QtP7gugVX6DF-c2H/s1600-h/LittleLloyd.jpg"><img style="float:left; margin:0 10px 10px 0;cursor:pointer; cursor:hand;width: 139px; height: 222px;" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEicOTu5odYKqC35hniUQYURRhXnHynQwDl4TYvIEMPHWhJ775Ac8vDg99fJha_NTrau2v3fzCLHdmUBViJrBe1V8qX93iFew66fHNF6_6zcgRr4zicyc_ozNGhAEyU_QtP7gugVX6DF-c2H/s320/LittleLloyd.jpg" border="0" alt=""id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5318617192207131698" /></a><br />As most readers know, my Dad has had limited vision all his life. He also was born color-blind. He attended the Lansing (MI) School for the Blind during high school, and has not had a driver's license since he was young. <br /><br />At eighty-six-years-old he spends much of his time listening to talking books and watching TV (sitting right next to the TV). One of his favorite channels to watch is RFD. He enjoys the many old-time music shows featuring his favorite singers and musicians from the past. <br /><br />We had purchased a series of videos from Country's Family Reunion, but he gave his video/DVD player to one of his grandchildren. A couple of weeks ago I bought him a set of DVDs showing hours of the Family Reunion shows. <br /><br />I happened to have a 17" TV/DVD that I placed on an end table across the room from his TV. He can set in the rocker/recliner next to the smaller TV/DVD player and watch the DVDs. He quickly learned to operate all the buttons on the remote, and now watches the shows anytime he gets tired of listening to his books. It also causes him to move to a different part of the living room, which I think is good for him.<br /><br />The shows are hosted by Bill Anderson and feature singing and conversation by major stars from past years. Occasionally they show outtakes of old performances from the 1950s - 1980's with comments by those who knew the performer, or by the performer themself. <br /><br />I watched several hours with Dad and the shows are such a joy to watch for country music fans. The DVDs are produced and available from Gabriel Communications, 125 Belle Forest Circle, Suite 101, Nashville, TN 37221. You can reach customer service by calling 1-800-820-5405.<br /><br />I highly recommend this series to any country music fan who would like to revisit a bygone era, and catch up with where those stars are now. The senior set will especially enjoy seeing their favorites.Edie Dykemanhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07694926625541907592noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7853206591437325784.post-70932195149376517462009-03-12T12:58:00.000-07:002009-03-12T13:11:55.250-07:00Elder Care ExpressThe Elder Care Cafe is definitely growing up! Today the site for caregivers and elders not only got a new Shoppe to enjoy (sorry, no Starbucks as yet), but it also has a newsletter - The Elder Care Express.<br /><br />The Elder Care Express is a weekly newsletter highlighting the happenings at Elder Care Cafe. You can sign-up right here: <br />==> <a href="http://www.eldercarecafe.net/">Elder Care Express</a><br /><br />We will keep you updated about further changes to our flagship site!Edie Dykemanhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07694926625541907592noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7853206591437325784.post-55323269253556376182009-03-12T12:49:00.000-07:002009-03-12T12:57:38.108-07:00Elder Care Cafe Shoppe Added TodayToday the Elder Care Cafe received a new Shoppe which contains books, movies, health and beauty products, health care products, and any other items that may apply to baby boomers, caregivers, aging seniors, and family members.<br /><br />Individual book, movie, and product reviews will also periodically appear on the site and will be added to the Shoppe's main page. <br /><br />The Shoppe is colorful, handy, and filled with a growing number of items. When you have chance to check it out, you will find it here ==> <a href="http://www.eldercarecafe.net/shoppe-2/">Elder Care Cafe Shoppe</a><br /><br />As always, let me know what you think.Edie Dykemanhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07694926625541907592noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7853206591437325784.post-76952246774341018632009-02-24T11:32:00.000-08:002009-02-24T11:40:50.867-08:00Haircuts, Bearhugs, and Sore RibsYesterday, an extended family member (my daughter's youngest sister) came over to the house so she could cut Dads' and my daughters' hair. <br /><br />When Sarah walked in, she gave Dad a big hug, whereby he said, "Ooh! Be careful, my ribs are sore." <br /><br />Sarah and Deb expressed concern about how he injured his ribs. Dad grinned and said, "Well, the women at the senior center hug me so hard it hurts my ribs." <br /><br />Hmmmmm! Anyone in particular, Dad?Edie Dykemanhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07694926625541907592noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7853206591437325784.post-28222704245469447562009-02-14T04:48:00.000-08:002009-02-14T05:00:47.067-08:00Text and Pix Messages - A Wonderful Thing<a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhsXtyWZxPrVLIGYzDKCxi1sLonm5kODabcTLBFRwMKbzEblFGwo5EnRK0Emimf7n6eauPcPxoI_o93cSGG01qNy55dBGgvx5E5ZfrulO0sz1R5ioEcKNWub42-SyT_rhvKwZgQJdaKUfN6/s1600-h/1-4-2008-20.jpg"><img style="float:right; margin:0 0 10px 10px;cursor:pointer; cursor:hand;width: 320px; height: 214px;" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhsXtyWZxPrVLIGYzDKCxi1sLonm5kODabcTLBFRwMKbzEblFGwo5EnRK0Emimf7n6eauPcPxoI_o93cSGG01qNy55dBGgvx5E5ZfrulO0sz1R5ioEcKNWub42-SyT_rhvKwZgQJdaKUfN6/s320/1-4-2008-20.jpg" border="0" alt=""id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5302636493351138914" /></a><br />This picture is David and his mom fishing from the pier in Port Aransas, TX<br /><br />Dad and I have received numerous text messages, pictures, and videos from my Texas-based daughter. The good news is that we are receiving numerous pictures of my grandson as he grows. We don't have to wait for pictures to be developed, sent by snail mail, or even wait for belated trips to the post office.<br /><br />I love hearing that little "ding" letting me know there is a new picture available. Now, if I can just get the pictures uploaded to my computer, that would be great. The videos are a riot, and we can see David in action. The funny thing is, he is either sleeping or moving around in some manner. He loves to move rapidly forward and back when he is sitting in his highchair. <br /><br />And the other day a picture arrived where he is sitting in the little antique chair Dad and I sent at Christmas time. The funny thing is, he was sticking his tongue out at us when the picture was taken. Now, I wonder who put him up to that?<br /><br />Anyway, I hope you have the capability to send and receive instant messages to long-distant family members. I know it has really enhanced our lives!<br /><br />Keep those pix and text coming, kids - we love them all!Edie Dykemanhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07694926625541907592noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7853206591437325784.post-22683540169666451502009-01-28T04:30:00.000-08:002009-01-28T04:49:12.047-08:00Before You Go...<a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEgDwPrlwOpHb-R16bjXoV6SFCnaK43w0FDYUc2SULB4LU0B4_R5JjTZe_dKEIIda3wjrxpeJNM87V1jIU52a7CZt4FpAQgsQIOM99snTr1DFV_wxL9W7K6iLZ4JgpP2c7eVnwXyqG3E8g3n/s1600-h/1-4-2008-04.jpg"><img style="float:right; margin:0 0 10px 10px;cursor:pointer; cursor:hand;width: 214px; height: 320px;" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEgDwPrlwOpHb-R16bjXoV6SFCnaK43w0FDYUc2SULB4LU0B4_R5JjTZe_dKEIIda3wjrxpeJNM87V1jIU52a7CZt4FpAQgsQIOM99snTr1DFV_wxL9W7K6iLZ4JgpP2c7eVnwXyqG3E8g3n/s320/1-4-2008-04.jpg" border="0" alt=""id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5296323579341218194" /></a><br />While you are visiting Elder Care Cafe, take a look at the pictures on the sidebar.<br /><br />This blog was started as a journal to share the story of my Dad and my care giving/receiving journey, and to share information and experiences with other caregivers. The more formal extension of this blog is at ElderCareCafe.net.<br /><br />I joined Dad on September 7, 2006 so that he could continue to live in the house he had shared with my mother since 1970.<br /><br />New Year's week, 2007/2008, my daughter and her family came to visit. During their ten day stay, we had the opportunity to bond with my new grandson, Dad's great-grandson. The two pictures on the sidebar were taken during their stay. <br /><br />David Lloyd was 21-months-old at the time. We miss him dearly, and enjoy the calls and pictures we have received since that time. He is growing up very quickly; he will be two-years-old on March 27. Hopefully, he will visit us again while we are still here. In the meantime, we will watch for further snail mail, email, and cell phone pix!<br /><br /><em>Do you have a special person in your life who lights up your day? If they live far away, I hope you have plenty of pictures to enjoy. </em>Edie Dykemanhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07694926625541907592noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7853206591437325784.post-78496263628304071342009-01-28T04:13:00.000-08:002009-01-28T04:29:15.383-08:00Dementia and Disposition - Is there a Link?A recent study suggests there is a link between Alzheimer's/Dementia and having a positive or negative personality. Although the findings were in the 50 percentile, there is a slim chance that positive people may not have as great a chance to succumb to the dreaded disease.<br /><br />The writer of the article takes unction with the results of the study, noting that the researchers only visited the participants one time to determine whether they were a positive person or not. As anyone can have a bad day once in a while, it would seem further contact would be necessary to determine a persons personality.<br /><br />To read more about this interesting study, and to find a link to the original article, click <a href="http://www.healthcentral.com/alzheimers/c/62/56825/personality">here</a>. <br /><br />To visit <a href="http://www.healthcentral.com/alzheimers/">OurAlzheimer's.com </a>home page click on the link. A part of Health Central, this site has numerous articles and information regarding Alzheimer's and dementia.<br /><br /><em>In your experience, do you think personality plays a part in whether someone will encounter Alzheimer's? </em>Edie Dykemanhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07694926625541907592noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7853206591437325784.post-27257121737628177142009-01-26T15:54:00.000-08:002009-01-26T16:24:00.648-08:00Thursday Thirteen Caregiver Blog Site ListOn the blogsite <em>Alzheimer's Notes</em>, Mary Emma Allen noted how she found a number of caregivers who have created blogs about their experience caring for a loved one. Caregivers are using blogs to express their own feelings and struggles, to help others cope, and to realize that they are not alone.<br /><br />Earlier this month, Mary Emma listed a group of blogs maintained by caregivers, and I was very blessed that this blog was included on the list. I would like to thank Mary Emma for all she has done to encourage others who are going through the physical and emotional challenge of caring for a loved one.<br /><br />If you have time, please visit Alzheimer's Notes and thank Mary Emma for her blog as she has given the rest of us the wisdom and understanding she obtained through her own caregiving experience. Many times, once someone's caregiving time is finished, they choose to move on. Mary Emma has returned to help the rest of us along.<br /><br /><strong>Thank you, Mary Emma, for your concern and your support!</strong><br /><br />You can read the article at this link ==> <a href="http://www.alzheimersnotes.com/thursday-thirteen-13-blogs-about-alzheimers/">Thursday Thirteen</a>.<br /><br /><em>If you know of any other sites that are written by caregivers, please leave the name of the site in the comment section. I believe it is important that we continue to support one another.</em>Edie Dykemanhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07694926625541907592noreply@blogger.com3tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7853206591437325784.post-30714613285495582392009-01-21T06:06:00.000-08:002009-01-21T06:25:48.032-08:00Seniors and Vitamin DLast month I visited my doctor's office for a yearly blood test and prescription refill. My doctor told me all the doctors in the practice were "pushing" vitamin D, and he thought I should start taking it along with my daily multivitamin. I asked him if it would help the SAD (seasonal affective disorder) I was struggling with and he said, "Absolutely."<br /><br />Yesterday his office called to confirm that advice, as apparently my blood test revealed I was depleted in that area. In fact, they doubled the amount I had already started taking.<br /><br />Today I found several articles on Senior Journal dot com that affirmed my doctors advice. An increasing number of studies show low levels of vitamin D are an invitation for some deadly diseases to take over our bodies. As vitamin E is losing it's popularity, vitamin D is picking up steam as studies prove it is a helpful deterrent against diabetes, cancer, heart disease, and osteoporosis.<br /><br />Check with your doctor, obtain a blood test if necessary, and follow your doctor's recommendation before proceeding with any dosage. <br /><br />Those who spend a lot of time in the sun, drink plenty of milk, and obtain vitamin D in other ways, probably won't need any additional vitamin D. But, if you live in a frigid climate such as MI, as I do, and your diet is lacking in this essential vitamin, you may want to make sure you get the nutrients you need.<br /><br />To read these important articles, click on this link => <a href="http://seniorjournal.com/Nutrition.htm">SeniorJournal.com</a>. There are a growing number of articles that will confirm vitamin D is a most important nutrient for an increasing number of people, especially seniors.Edie Dykemanhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07694926625541907592noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7853206591437325784.post-45236730281075278042009-01-16T08:19:00.000-08:002009-01-16T08:30:45.406-08:00Frigid? Who's Frigid?<a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEj2HCsD93GubPwFWT0wId6mnh3apdcXjQ9mw8bFHQJRUJjYvx5mPQ_6pxDd4EojTos4f2gIHSyNC0Km19JQz8o0etztRldiYci3RgsRMbhGbY2_fnsTlASW58ThahA7a2MJyv9HcC8fzWLP/s1600-h/House+in+winter080311a8100.jpg"><img style="float:left; margin:0 10px 10px 0;cursor:pointer; cursor:hand;width: 400px; height: 267px;" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEj2HCsD93GubPwFWT0wId6mnh3apdcXjQ9mw8bFHQJRUJjYvx5mPQ_6pxDd4EojTos4f2gIHSyNC0Km19JQz8o0etztRldiYci3RgsRMbhGbY2_fnsTlASW58ThahA7a2MJyv9HcC8fzWLP/s400/House+in+winter080311a8100.jpg" border="0" alt=""id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5291928844873097970" /></a><br /><br />It is colder than icicles in Michigan! In fact, the icicles are probably buckling under this frigid weather. Wow! This morning my computer said it was -9 F about 6:30 a.m. Our indoor/outdoor is hovering around 4 deg. <br /><br />That said, Dad and I are doing pretty good as long as we can stay indoors. We are toasty warm, there is plenty of hot chocolate with marshmallows to be had, the cookie gremlin might be inspired to make peanut butter cookies sometime today, and I heard whispers that we might enjoy a nice hot bowl of potato soup tonight for supper.<br /><br />Dad got a bunch of new talking books yesterday - mostly western theme with a couple of Zane Grey for good measure. He really enjoys listening to westerns. <br /><br />For the first time in weeks the sky is blue, the sun is shining, but it is still frigid. I guess we better take the good news while we can.<br /><br /><em>What is your good news today? How's the weather? What's for supper? What are you reading and/or drinking? Inquiring minds want to know! </em>Edie Dykemanhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07694926625541907592noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7853206591437325784.post-62762050877210327392009-01-09T13:14:00.000-08:002009-01-09T13:23:13.406-08:00Healthy Lifestyle Initiative 2009The main Elder Care Cafe has a three day healthy lifestyle initiative each week. Running from Friday through Sunday, each day has a specific theme. Friday posts are related to the Body, Saturday is specifically about the Soul, and Sunday discusses the Spiritual aspect of our lives.<br /><br />Today's post was about <a href="http://www.eldercarecafe.net/">Healthy Walking at Any Age</a>. Check it out and join in as we strive to live a healthier lifestyle throughout 2009.<br /><br /><em>Did you set any resolutions or goals for 2009? Were they health related?</em>Edie Dykemanhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07694926625541907592noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7853206591437325784.post-70058193824226087992008-12-10T04:15:00.000-08:002008-12-10T04:32:03.616-08:00Elder Care Cafe on the 'NetThe Elder Care Cafe dot net version just received a much needed upgrade, and is ready to roll. Click <a href="http://www.eldercarecafe.net/">here</a> to see the results, and to subscribe to the newsletter (sent monthly or weekly) that will begin after the first of the year. <br /><br />I am very excited about the potential this site has to be a positive force in the world of senior citizens and those who love and care for them. Let me know, in the comments or by email, what you think of the changes. Most are not visible, but you will see a few additions. <br /><br /><em>If you have a website or blog concerning elder care, baby boomers, caregivers, or anything related to health care and the elderly, feel free to leave the url in the comment section. We would love to check out your site.</em><em></em>Edie Dykemanhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07694926625541907592noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7853206591437325784.post-81231335484082151132008-12-06T03:00:00.000-08:002008-12-07T05:52:10.070-08:00Women and Bone Density<a href="http://1.bp.blogspot.com/_Ab0YGJjJM5Y/STphETEbq7I/AAAAAAAAAPM/NN4Xk3l8lIg/s1600-h/Elder+Care+Net.jpeg"><img style="float:left; margin:0 10px 10px 0;cursor:pointer; cursor:hand;width: 200px; height: 150px;" src="http://1.bp.blogspot.com/_Ab0YGJjJM5Y/STphETEbq7I/AAAAAAAAAPM/NN4Xk3l8lIg/s200/Elder+Care+Net.jpeg" border="0" alt=""id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5276636639884192690" /></a><br />This morning I posted a comprehensive article at the <a href="http://www.eldercarecafe.net/">ElderCareCafe</a> site about women and the importance of having a bone density test.<br /><br />Because nearly 80 percent of those who develop osteoporosis are women, it is important that all women are aware of the steps necessary to slow or halt bone loss.<br /><br />Please check out this important article by clicking on the title above. While you are there, take a look at the nifty additions to the site. Joel at TheBlogTechGuy did a marvelous job repairing and updating the site. <br /><br />The Elder Care Cafe on the net is a more formal blog for caregivers and those who love them. This blog on Blogger is less formal, with personal stories about my family mixed in with information about elder care and caregiving. <br /><br />Two sites with similar names, but very different in focus and atmosphere. I hope you subscribe to both. <br /><br /><em>Please let me know what topics you would like to hear about, and please comment on what you read. I love to hear what you think. Thanks for visiting the Elder Care Cafes.</em>Edie Dykemanhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07694926625541907592noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7853206591437325784.post-20725138521288944812008-12-04T02:00:00.000-08:002008-12-04T02:00:00.730-08:00More Men Now Caregivers for Elderly ParentsAccording to a recent survey by the Alzheimer's Association, more men are caring for their elderly parents. Formerly a "women's job", men are stepping up to the plate, possibly due to the increased number of women in the workplace and families becoming smaller.<br /><br />In 1996, the number of male caregivers was 19 percent. Now that number has increased to 40 percent of men who are now family caregivers. It is estimated 17 million men are now caring for adults in the United States. <br /><br />Unfortunately, the male caregivers have more problems with isolation than do their female counterparts. It is believed women are more likely to open up to others about their concerns, socialize more than men, and generally get out of the home more often to attend support groups or church activities allowing them opportunity to interact with other adults. <br /><br />Men have fewer outside contacts and tend to feel more isolated. For men, care giving is more stressful because they do not feel they can open up and talk about what is going on the way women are able.<br /><br />On the caregiver forums, I have seen a few men join in the conversations, but the majority are women. Hopefully, if men aren't able to communicate with someone in their physical area, they will get online and open up to others in a safe online environment such as a caregiver forum.<br /><br /><em>Do you know a male family caregiver? Would you point him in the direction of the <a href="http://www.aarp.org/">AARP online community</a>, or the National Family Caregivers Association (<a href="http://www.nfcacares.org/connecting_caregivers/">NFCA</a>) caregiver message boards? Just have them click on the links and they can easily and anonymously share their feelings and frustrations online. </em>Edie Dykemanhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07694926625541907592noreply@blogger.com3tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7853206591437325784.post-32305614588467483362008-12-03T09:15:00.000-08:002008-12-03T09:59:13.464-08:003 Ways to Keep Your Mind Healthy<a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEiNCxEhJ-UlFi5n-8kr6pA_QaK3fanZGa_xHA4cGqrtKsvqn4tLHz6c4AJV_cHqEH-af4qfu-HgfRJs4RFfqtSaD7o7-jsK1STg985iBScELdnLrOiQhSTMXHEalgmbkc-bSVqv6ddpZe4o/s1600-h/Crossword+puzzle+by+everdred.bmp"><img style="float:right; margin:0 0 10px 10px;cursor:pointer; cursor:hand;width: 251px; height: 320px;" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEiNCxEhJ-UlFi5n-8kr6pA_QaK3fanZGa_xHA4cGqrtKsvqn4tLHz6c4AJV_cHqEH-af4qfu-HgfRJs4RFfqtSaD7o7-jsK1STg985iBScELdnLrOiQhSTMXHEalgmbkc-bSVqv6ddpZe4o/s320/Crossword+puzzle+by+everdred.bmp" border="0" alt=""id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5275624471444479522" /></a><br />The Alzheimer’s Association estimates 5.2 million Americans have memory and language problems caused by Alzheimer’s disease. That number is expected to increase by more than 50 percent by 2030.<br /><br />Studies show there are three ways to help keep the mind healthy as people age:<br /><br />1. <strong>Physical activity</strong>. Staying active seems to lead to a healthy mind. Fortunately, you don't need to engage in planned exercise, just staying active by cleaning house, gardening, and other movement-oriented activities count.<br /><br />2. <strong>Challenge your brain</strong>. Daily word games, crossword puzzles, visiting museums and attending concerts all help keep the brain active.<br /><br />3. <strong>Social activity</strong>. Having a large social network helps the brain stay active. Get out there and mingle among your friends and acquaintances for a good time, and to stay mentally healthy.<br /><br />You can read the complete article at <a href="http://seniorjournal.com/NEWS/Alzheimers/2008/20081202-StudiesOnHow.htm">SeniorJournal.com</a>. With Alzheimer's statistics increasing at a frightening pace, anything you can do now to prevent or slow the disease will only help you in the future. None of the tips above are difficult, and you will add richness to your life at the same time. <br /><br />Do you have a favorite brain activity? Do you think it helps your brain stay healthy?Edie Dykemanhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07694926625541907592noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7853206591437325784.post-41782501054096163702008-12-01T01:53:00.000-08:002008-12-01T01:53:00.994-08:00World Aids Day 2008<a href="http://4.bp.blogspot.com/_Ab0YGJjJM5Y/STLVfsrx9lI/AAAAAAAAAN4/X2_tngUfLLs/s1600-h/World+Aids+Day.bmp"><img style="float:right; margin:0 0 10px 10px;cursor:pointer; cursor:hand;width: 300px; height: 203px;" src="http://4.bp.blogspot.com/_Ab0YGJjJM5Y/STLVfsrx9lI/AAAAAAAAAN4/X2_tngUfLLs/s400/World+Aids+Day.bmp" border="0" alt=""id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5274512854151722578" /></a><br />December 1, 2008 is the 20th anniversary of World Aids Day. Statistics furnished by the <a href="http://www.cdc.gov/Features/WorldAIDSDay/">Centers for Disease Control and Prevention </a>(CDC)indicate that around the world, 33 million people are living with HIV with nearly 7,500 new infections occurring each day. An estimated 3 million people are now receiving antiretroviral treatment in low and middle-income countries. <br /><br />In the United States, CDC estimates that about 1.1 million people are living with HIV.<br /><br />World AIDS Day is a time to celebrate the many lives saved by HIV prevention and treatment programs. It also serves as a reminder that we all must do more — as individuals, communities, and as world citizens — to fight the spread of HIV and AIDS. <br /><br />CDC currently estimates that approximately one in five persons living with HIV in the United States is unaware of his or her infection and may be unknowingly transmitting the virus to others. <br /><br />Since anyone can be at risk for HIV, CDC recommends that adults and adolescents between the ages of 13 and 64 years of age be routinely screened for HIV infection in healthcare settings. Pregnant women in the U.S. should be screened for HIV infection as part of their routine prenatal testing. <br /><br />Once tested, individuals can take steps to protect their health or, if infected, they can gain access to health-sustaining treatments and care, and help prevent the spread of the disease to others. <br /><br />On this World AIDS Day 2008, we all need to commit to expanding the reach of effective prevention efforts to those at risk and those living with HIV in order to stop the further spread of HIV in the United States.Edie Dykemanhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07694926625541907592noreply@blogger.com0